Anger, repressing feelings, tension

[Adjaay]

Hello everyone,

I have some questions. I often feel like I'm not okay inside. As if emotions like anger are always stuck inside me. Most of the time, I feel "normal" (my normal is a constant moderate anxiety, I would say). I don't feel my best, but I'm not at my worst either.

I've noticed that I can get very angry about certain things, like when my parents ask for help or when a friend needs assistance but doesn't understand that I don't feel weel (i often feel misunderstood and it makes me so mad). I feel frustrated and like I'm suffocating. It's hard to manage these emotions, even though I know you need to feel and let things go.

I don't know if I'm making sense; have any of you experienced something similar? It's like I don't want to let go of negative emotions and grudges. I've started practicing somatic tracking again, and I want to do more to really feel my body and emotions.

I'm currently not working, and I want to find a job to keep myself busy. It's hard not to always focus on my symptoms when I'm home all the time.

Thank you, everyone.

 

[Ellen]

There's a form of somatic tracking that you can do for anxiety and other emotions:

https://www.tmswiki.org/forum/threads/day-10-somatic-tracking-ii-anxiety-strikes-back.16540/ (New Program - Day 10: Somatic Tracking II: Anxiety Strikes Back)

It involves just observing how you feel without judgment. Emotions only last about 90 seconds if we accept and allow them to pass through us.

There is the saying "what we resist persists". We don't like the way anxiety feels so we resist it, but that only prolongs it.

 

[Adjaay]

Thank you I just tried that few hours ago I will add this exercice to my routine !

 

[Diana-M]

Hello everyone,

I have some questions. I often feel like I'm not okay inside. As if emotions like anger are always stuck inside me. Most of the time, I feel "normal" (my normal is a constant moderate anxiety, I would say). I don't feel my best, but I'm not at my worst either.

I've noticed that I can get very angry about certain things, like when my parents ask for help or when a friend needs assistance but doesn't understand that I don't feel weel (i often feel misunderstood and it makes me so mad). I feel frustrated and like I'm suffocating. It's hard to manage these emotions, even though I know you need to feel and let things go.

I don't know if I'm making sense; have any of you experienced something similar? It's like I don't want to let go of negative emotions and grudges. I've started practicing somatic tracking again, and I want to do more to really feel my body and emotions.

I'm currently not working, and I want to find a job to keep myself busy. It's hard not to always focus on my symptoms when I'm home all the time.

Thank you, everyone.

I feel exactly like you. You are in the right place. Welcome!

 

[Adjaay]

I feel exactly like you. You are in the right place. Welcome!

Thank you : )!!

 

[Andy Bayliss]

I've noticed that I can get very angry about certain things, like when my parents ask for help or when a friend needs assistance but doesn't understand that I don't feel weel (i often feel misunderstood and it makes me so mad). I feel frustrated and like I'm suffocating. It's hard to manage these emotions, even though I know you need to feel and let things go.

I don't know if I'm making sense; have any of you experienced something similar? It's like I don't want to let go of negative emotions and grudges.

Dear Adjaay,

I think you're experiencing part of the normal human experience, and it takes strength to feel these things and not distract.

I would suggest there is some rejection of your emotional experiences ---which we might call Inner Critic activity, and this is natural. One basic approach is to simply feel, without judgement, and allow, even the sense of suffocation. The somatic tracking is good for this. Another is to work with the Inner Critic to make space for the anger, to loosen up the inner tension and conflicts which we feel when we reject certain emotions like anger.

Another basic support for "allowing" is a meditation like Neff's here, a self-compassion meditation. This can help soften the familiar feeling of trying to fix the emotional situation.

https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/self-compassion.break_.mp3

Find ways to be gentle with yourself, and ways to speak to yourself in a way which is soothing.

Andy

 

[Adjaay]

Dear Adjaay,

I think you're experiencing part of the normal human experience, and it takes strength to feel these things and not distract.

I would suggest there is some rejection of your emotional experiences ---which we might call Inner Critic activity, and this is natural. One basic approach is to simply feel, without judgement, and allow, even the sense of suffocation. The somatic tracking is good for this. Another is to work with the Inner Critic to make space for the anger, to loosen up the inner tension and conflicts which we feel when we reject certain emotions like anger.

Another basic support for "allowing" is a meditation like Neff's here, a self-compassion meditation. This can help soften the familiar feeling of trying to fix the emotional situation.

https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/self-compassion.break_.mp3

Find ways to be gentle with yourself, and ways to speak to yourself in a way which is soothing.

Andy

Hello,
Sorry for the late response.
Thank you for your answer. Yes it's pretty hard and frustrating, I wish I could easily feel these emotions. I will check this link !

 

[Cactusflower]

"Yes it's pretty hard and frustrating, I wish I could easily feel these emotions. "

Notice how difficult you are being on yourself and striving for this to be perfect. These are the mindset things we need to work on. We aren't perfect and nobody really easily feels emotions. Most people sweep at least some of them away (or we'd spend our entire day either weeping or in fits of laughter). It's not easy, and the key is to accept that that is absolutely OK.

 

[Adjaay]

"Yes it's pretty hard and frustrating, I wish I could easily feel these emotions. "

Notice how difficult you are being on yourself and striving for this to be perfect. These are the mindset things we need to work on. We aren't perfect and nobody really easily feels emotions. Most people sweep at least some of them away (or we'd spend our entire day either weeping or in fits of laughter). It's not easy, and the key is to accept that that is absolutely OK.

It's true, I will that in mind, I do as I can,
thank you for your kind words !