Dr. Zafirides Anger: How Emotions Affect Your Body and Brain

Hi Everyone,

I just posted an article on the effect of anger upon our emotional and physical well-being. It also includes a recent interview of Dr. Howard Kassinove from Hostra University. Dr. Kassinove is a thought leader in the field of anger.

http://www.thehealthymind.com/2012/05/11/anger-how-a-common-emotion-affects-your-body-and-brain/

I hope you find it helpful.

Kindly,
Dr. Z

 

Thank you Peter!

 

Positive or negative, all depends on how we deal with or express this anger. If I were to make it known to someone that I am angry by explaining how I feel and what I would like to see happen without using blaming language, this would be positive. If I did use a more aggressive approach towards the other person, they could feel threatened or attacked and they would not be inclined to listen to what I had to say. This would heighten my anger. Expressed appropriately anger can be used to show someone the depth of your emotions and if the other person is truly receptive, a stronger connection or bond can be formed.

When my kids were growing up I was an angry parent. I learned this behaviour from my own angry parent. Whereas my father could be physically violent, I just used to scream my head off. Did my kids listen? Did I form a positive bond with them? I'm fortunate they are actually still on speaking terms with me. My late father did realise the error of his ways very near to his death (and after several heart attacks, bi-pass surgery and various other medical conditions). He tried to tell me that anger, it just isn't worth it. He could see a lot of him in me, I guess.

I like the part of the article where it mentions the transient interactions with strangers, people we will never see again, learning to question ourselves about the importance of these interactions and reframing a catastrophe into an unpleasant event. There was a time when I wouldn't let anything go. Now I impose limits. I let myself think about something for so long and if my thoughts become circular, I call time.

 

Hi Forest,

I would dearly appreciate if you could assist me with the two questions below.

1) I was trying to send a message to Peg through the hyperlink on page 'one' (I think) where the TMS structure program begins. Though I was already signed in, I was taken to a page that I never came across before to sign up again. When I signed up with my user name (which I believe is Quasar731...?) and password, I was advised that both password and user name was not recognized...? I tried three times and then I proceeded to changed my password (thought that there was an issue with it) and same thing happened, it was not accepted. I gave up.

2) If I want to send a message private to you or Peg or anyone in the forum, where it says reply, does that mean the message is read by everyone?

Apology, I am still trying to get my head around this interface. I have not had too much time to spend to figure it out. I would dearly appreciate if you could explain or direct me to a link where I can get the configuration of the forum and what messages become public and which do not. Many thanks.

Kind regards,

Quasar731

 

YB,

Often times, the anger we project at other people has nothing (or very little) to do with them.

The more the emotion, the less it has to do with the immediate situation at hand.

Remember, we really don't get angry AT others, we tend to get angry THROUGH them.

-Dr Z.

 

You're welcome.

I am happy to know that you found some value in the article. I really thought it was quite appropriate give the nature of PPD.

Dr. Z