I have several members of my family who are suffering from TMS. I won't go into my whole backstory here, but let's just say I have enough experience with MB disorders to feel pretty confident in my ability to recognize the signs in others. One of them is an immediate family member who refuses to acknowledge even the possibility of a relationship between her repressed anger and a semi-sudden onset of back pain. I am concerned she is carrying around enough to result in some kind of disease process at some point. She's also exposing herself to dangerous drugs to treat the osteopenia her doctors point to as the source of this pain. The other suffers from neck pain, which began as back pain, which led to spinal surgery before migrating to his neck. One of the clearest cases of the 'Symptom Imperative' I've seen, but he agreed to surgical intervention even after collecting as many diagnoses as doctors. Because I've had so much trouble defeating my own TMS, my credibility as a 'TMS evangelist' is shot. I can no longer be taken seriously when I raise the possibility that someone I care about might be suffering from TMS, because I will invariably have to answer the same question: If all of this pain is psychosomatic, why can't you fix YOUR pain? From my perspective, both of these family members are undoubtedly suffering from TMS. They would both likely 'fail' Dr. Sarno's preinterview, and he probably wouldn't even have agreed to see either of them. What can I do to convince them to at least consider TMS as a potential source of their suffering? Have any of you discovered an approach that has a better chance at convincing the skeptics that they have nothing to lose by opening up their minds? How do you avoid the defensive posture they almost always adopt when I bring it up? Thanks for any advice.