After hearing my wife tell me 1,000 times over the past 5 months the 1,001st time hit me. Even though I am kind, caring, giving.... I am a negative person. It stems from the way I grew up. My house was negative and even aftre my parents divorced my dad carried negative thinking along to me through my teen years. I was able to break free of it in my 20s when I moved away and got out of college. I was pretty care free in my 20s. Once I got married and had a child, I think my dad in me came out. I am able to see the kiss butts at work, the clicks in church and in the neighborhood. I know I am not suppose to care but that is what my dad trained me to do....be cautious of others. So now, I am working on that. I am approaching more people I would ahve normally written off. I am attending a mens dinner at church each month to get to know others members. I am branching out and realizing that making judgments based on the car some drives or the way a person might carry themselves is typically not accurate. This negative attitude though has bleed into my TMS healing. I wake up every day and feel my head pressure, neck pain and back pain and say to myself oh great here we go again. I am going to be in pain all day. This will never go away. I am going to deal with this forever. Logically, I should know that none of this pain came on until i begame worrying about other symptoms that have long since gone. I am finding it easier to move toward positive thinking in my other areas of life but with the TMS health issue I am finding it harder to put a spin on it. Anyone have some good examples of how to put a positive spin on their pain..... So when I go outside and my temples start to hurt....what would some of you TMS warriors think to gain the positive perspective.