I have an issue that causes me great anger and sadness. The unfortunate thing is I really can't change it right now. What am I suppose to do with these feelings in order to work through my pain? Can I still have the situation in my life and recover? The shortened version of my issue is that my 19 year old daughter and I get along but only to a certain level. When she explodes, which can be for a very small reason, she says horrible things to me- very hurtful and cruel. She has to want to change in order for this to get better and I'm not sure she wants to. Thankfully she attends university in another city. Any suggestions?