self compassion

Hello! I’m new on my TMS journey. Sometimes I think I have a hard time distinguishing between self compassion and sticking up to the pain like it’s a bully. Like it’s still a part of you thats trying to protect you, and even though it is incorrect and hurting you, do you not want to offer it...

Hello all! On the back of conversations in this thread around kickstarting the day with an injection of positivity, I started visually compiling some bumper sticker style mantras/affirmations I look at first thing in the morning. I have found them so effective that I carry the notebook with me...

As I think this is an area I struggle with I was looking forward to reading the attached article on exercises to generate self compassion but the link no longer works. Any advice on how I go about generating real true self compassion?

Figuring out that self-consciousness and embarrassment are a big aspect of my TMS. I’m embarrassed to let my grown kids see how weak I am (can’t walk well due to symptoms.) I’m embarrassed to let friends see me. I’m embarrassed to let neighbors see me. I’m even embarrassed around my husband...

I really enjoyed demonstrating some modes of working with our inner experience ---with awareness, self-compassion, and defending against the Inner Critic. Enjoy!

The pain/fear cycle being what it is- fear of the pain actually reinforces the neural pathways that create the pain- it makes sense that while we work to calm our nervous system, we want to send messages of safety to ourselves. These messages typically sound like, “I’m okay. This is just...

I do want to heal, otherwise I wouldn't be here. I've always fought for myself to be a better person. I have beaten so many self-destructive things I used to do to harm myself. But I don't actually want to be NICE to myself every day if that makes sense. Despite not cutting or drinking or...

One question that I get often is, “Am I journaling correctly?” Short answer: Yes. Longer answer: I completely understand the question and the worry behind it. I felt the same while going through my healing journey. We want to know that we are doing everything we can possibly do the best way...

One of the hardest parts in this whole mind/body healing is the concept of BELIEF. We hear that we must have 100% belief. Most of the writers of our beloved TMS books spend the majority of the book developing belief, and precious little in the actual “what to do” portion. Why? Because belief...

This is the departing editor of the "Well" column at the NY Times (she's going to the WA Post), in this week's email newsletter. I thought it was worth sharing part of it. For better health, try fitness from the inside out. By Tara Parker-Pope Columnist, Well When I first started writing...

Do you have a habit of intensity? I mean this in all seriousness. Do you approach your whole life with intense pressure? Intense expectations, intense responses to others, intense scrutiny of every thought and emotion that you have? Especially after learning about the mind/body connection...

Building Self Compassion Through Stages We hear it time and again, “Treat yourself with compassion.” or “You’re too hard on yourself; forgive yourself.” But how exactly do we do this when we have a lifetime of self criticism and judgment? How do we learn to feel authentic empathy for ourselves...

Hi everybody! Daniel Lyman here. I'm a licensed pain therapist and have been active on the wiki for many years now. I recently opened a group therapy/coaching practice dedicated to helping people overcome TMS/Chronic symptoms. Our group practice is called the Mind Body Therapy Center. Check out...

Hi Everyone, I wanted to post this, knowing many people I work with and have met here suffer from childhood relations with narcissistic type parent figures. In truth, our inner experience of not being seen is universal, not just for TMSers! A deeper part of Almaas (0ne of the contributors)...

I had a realization through doing this Pain Recovery Program and the SED. I haven't been very compassionate to myself. I listened to the audio clips of the man who treated others with compassion but not himself. That's me. After grad school is when I started to be this way. I felt so much was...

@Sonic brought up an important point in a recent thread regarding embarrassment and negative self-talk: "I can relate to your post mate and there is something you mention there that relates to my past expeperiance about past embarrassments. If you are ruminating and thinking of these often then...

Self compassion has been key in my TMS recovery journey this time around. One trick I've been using is to take my own issue and imagine that my closest friend is sharing that problem with me. I KNOW I would hug her and tell her that it's ok. I would tell her to be kind and gentle with herself...

This looks really good and is free! Starts Sept 11. http://www.soundstrue.com/store/self-acceptance-summit/free-access?utm_source=bronto&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=C170829-SAS-Squeeze2&utm_content=NEW+SUMMIT+featuring+Elizabeth+Gilbert,+Anne+Lamott,+Adyashanti,+and+More (Self-Acceptance Summit)

The practice of loving kindness offers a whole host of benefits, one of the most important being that research shows that the practice produces significant improvements in pain and psychological distress for people living with chronic pain. On a personal note, this practice saved my life. It so...