inner child

Building Self Compassion Through Stages We hear it time and again, “Treat yourself with compassion.” or “You’re too hard on yourself; forgive yourself.” But how exactly do we do this when we have a lifetime of self criticism and judgment? How do we learn to feel authentic empathy for ourselves...

She's got eyes of the bluest skies, as if they thought of rain. I’d hate to look into those eyes and see an ounce of pain.” The Guns N’ Roses lyrics above can absolutely bring me to tears. Why? Well, at one time, it brought feelings of protectiveness toward my youngest, Adam, who does indeed...

Hi TMS Forum, Some of my friends and I are offering support for folks during the Covid19 Pandemic, free of charge on Zoom, Tuesday evenings, 6:00 to 7:30 pm, Pacific Time. We start next Tuesday, May 12, with the esteemed Ted Sundin, Psychiatrist. You can see the presenters and subjects below...

Hi Everyone, I wanted to post this, knowing many people I work with and have met here suffer from childhood relations with narcissistic type parent figures. In truth, our inner experience of not being seen is universal, not just for TMSers! A deeper part of Almaas (0ne of the contributors)...

Hi Everyone, I am posting here a conversation that Eddy Lindenstein and I had, re foot pain, plantar fasciitis, tarsal tunnel, peripheral neuropathy, superego, and the invitation our psyche gives us to feel deeply and heal. Eddy's Mind and Fitness Podcast has many other interviews, and he has...

Hi, I was wondering how it's possible to get a good idea of what kind of things the unconscious wants. I know there are things that enrage the subconscious if you do or don't do that can subsequently cause pain or other TMS-related problems. But how do we always know what exactly enrages it...

One of our members asked today for more information on the Inner Child and how it affects our TMS. I found this article to be very helpful on the topic. See how it applies to you. Has your adult self spent time with your inner child today? This is an excerpt from Dr. Diamond's forthcoming...

Once you can "feel" your inner child having temper tantrums, enraged all the time, what do you say to your brain? And is it your brain you imagine talking to, or your inner adult? As I understand it, the child is generating the rage, and the parent is generating the pressure (to be perfect...

Hi All, I posted this awhile back but have new links to this, so I am posting again. Can be found at http://www.tmspainrelief.com/tis-the-season-for-pain/ ('Tis the Season for Pain? | TMS Pain Relief with Andy Bayliss) Andy B ‘Tis the Season for Pain? I don’t give Christmas presents any...

Something interesting happened last weekend. I signed up for a 3-hour meditation class. Going in, I did not expect myself to last past first hour. Me pre-Sarno would suffer after first 30 minutes. Well, I loved every minute of it! Followed by a very relaxing, slow rest of the weekend, with a...

Hi All, I hope holidays are going well. Some might be interested in my experience, which is a long post below.... I just posted this on my blog. Andy I don’t give Christmas presents any more. I don’t have to find a gift that someone is “sure to like.” That’s a relief! I live in the same town...

Those of you who read my previous post know that I've felt "stuck." There are two big reasons, not wanting to face some very strong emotions, and also a level of impatience that I'm more mindful of. The other day, I was spider writing about my fears for a business I'm trying to build, and I...

Dear TMS Forum Members, I have posted this on my blog here. And have copied it here for you. I am interested in your responses. Thank you. Andy B. I want to tell you about the first wonderful, mind-blowing surprise I experienced while beginning to accept Dr. Sarno's understanding about my...

I spent a considerable amount of time today doing a big job because someone else dropped the ball. First mistake: over-responsible and goodist. Once it was finished, I let her know it was done and she immediately responded by pointing out some mistakes I made. Second mistake: reacting to “the...

I have finished Alan's Recovery Program and will probably listen over and over again, because everything about it, even the sound of his voice, is *so* soothing. The reparenting bits are very helpful and I understand the subconscious anger, because I have actually had dreams where I have my...