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Right now, I’m reading, Forgive for Good, by Fred Luskin. It’s such a great book. And it’s got me thinking. It teaches how holding resentment in your heart will hold tension in your body. And, as we know, TMS is tension. Tension causes pain. Most of my current symptoms came when my two...

One of my toughest issues is being a grandmother. There are times I wonder if my TMS is protecting me from it. I can do so much less these days and have turned into a recluse from my family. Am I really doing this to avoid the pain of grandmothering? Here are some of the things I’ve thought...

Hi everyone This is a recurring problem for me. When I see my family (grown kids) they are very disturbed with how slowly I’m improving (it’s undetectable for them) and how disabled I currently seem to be. They don’t readily accept what TMS is; in fact they don’t say it, but I know they think...

The last months of the calendar year, along with short days and winter weather in the northern hemisphere, also bring more togetherness with family members, especially for holiday celebrations which for many are not particularly celebratory. With than in mind, the day before U.S. Thanksgiving...

Has anyone tried IFS therapy for TMS symptom relief? What “parts” of IFS do you think are responsible for the symptoms? Managers or Firefighters? It’s very interesting material and I think the concept can be used to understand TMS. thoughts?

I’m a seasoned TMS warrior. I’ve been through years of therapy. I thought I knew everything … until…. I came to this forum and I was directed to “look in plain sight” for sources to my TMS. What does that mean? It means: something is making you so mad that you have TMS to keep you from...

This article spoke to me so strongly it took my breath away. I’m posting it (even though it’s long) in case it helps someone else. How Toxic Families Rob You Of Your Life, Joy and Identity (And How To Get Them Back)...

Hello, everyone! The plot thickens. My struggle with my narcissistic sister continues. (Probably my number one cause of my TMS). I have not officially cut her off. Although I’m so close and was just starting to feel some major physical and emotional relief with that decision. When, she texts me...

I’ve been in therapy (this time) for 3 years. I began this therapy because I was reading Sarno and doing all his advice, with nothing happening. So I decided I was one of the unlucky few he mentions who will need therapy. The therapy I am getting is called Internal Family Systems (IFS). The...

Hi everyone, Welcome, if you’re new! And *thank you,* to all the old timers on this wiki, who have helped me —and are still helping me—so much! HUGE breakthrough in psychotherapy for me today! I’ve been in Internal Family Systems psychotherapy (recommended by TMS experts) for 3 years —to...

Unsent Dear ***, You disgust me when I see you arrive I'm afraid that you stink, glue, be dirty, stagger, roll your eyes, get angry. I live in apprehension of your symptoms, and feel you weak, downcast, sad, old. I'm so sorry to see you like this. I feel like I can't do anything more for you...

I am greatly enjoying a new short series on the National Geographic Channel, called "Limitless", with Chris Hemsworth (yes, aka Thor). It's also on Disney+. As my thread title states, it's all about the power of our minds to overcome our perceived physical limitations, with an additional goal...

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So you completely (or mostly) believe that your symptoms are due to TMS or mind/body syndrome, and you're doing the work of looking at your emotions, maybe journaling, maybe meditation, some somatic tracking thrown in, but it just doesn’t seem to be enough. You’re not getting any results…no...

Hi everyone I am in a bind and wanted some advice. I’m part of a really codependent family and My brother and mum in particular are incredibly overbearing. They are fixers - if me or my partner give them even an inch towards a conversation about our lives, job choices, housing situation...

Just wanted to share something that I find so interesting, albeit tragic, in terms of the TMS world (and also my family.) My dad has been having severe back pain off and on for the past couple years. He has already had two surgeries and is scheduled for a third and keeps going to the hospital...

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Hi, All, I’ve posted a few times. Briefly, I learned about TMS in January. I’ve read the literature accept the diagnosis, and have been doing my best to apply TMS recovery strategies to my own life. If you’ve read any books about TMS, you already know a lot about who I am. To date, I have had...

Just thought of this and wondered if it's possible: I never directly experienced a TMS-causing trauma that I can think of. But my family, like great-grandparents and beyond, went through all sorts of awful things before emigrating to the US. I'm wondering if those traits of fear, PTSD, and...