boundaries

Today one of my sons wanted to come over with his wife to exchange gifts. They are going out of town to her side of the family for a few days at Christmas. In the past, I would have agonized over what to do, because I’m still getting over a cold and not feeling well. Knowing my son’s feelings...

This is via my weekly newsletter from the Ten Percent Happier meditation+ app - the app is a subscription, but they also have a free weekly podcast. This topic from a few weeks ago seems to be relevant to a lot of people here (I remember that @Diana-M brought this up and it became a lively...

Hi! I’m a big fan of journaling. I’m literally learning more about myself from journaling than I ever thought possible. Anyway, a technique I found on the wiki by @AndrewMillerMFT looked interesting and I tried it. It was Really good! Per Andrew’s instructions, I come to find out (in my...

I’m getting asked ‘how are you feeling? Shouldn’t you be resting? Are you better now?’ A lot! And it’s really irritating me and I think… sabotaging me. They’re enabling me to feel bad every time they drag it all up. Every time someone draws attention to my illness/pain I’m reminded of it and...

Let’s talk about another important concept. I like to call this one the difference between Self Care and Post Care. Both are important. One is more often overlooked. Post care as the name implies are activities or ways of thinking that we employ after a hard or stressful time. Giving...

So you completely (or mostly) believe that your symptoms are due to TMS or mind/body syndrome, and you're doing the work of looking at your emotions, maybe journaling, maybe meditation, some somatic tracking thrown in, but it just doesn’t seem to be enough. You’re not getting any results…no...

I have expanded the amount of activities I can do despite symptoms, but my illness has not improved. Actually, things have gone downhill despite me making some positive life changes to cut out stressors. I have become increasingly aware of the fact that I never feel safe or relaxed, not even...

Hi everyone I am in a bind and wanted some advice. I’m part of a really codependent family and My brother and mum in particular are incredibly overbearing. They are fixers - if me or my partner give them even an inch towards a conversation about our lives, job choices, housing situation...

Hello All, I hope you will find this of interest, it's a great talk on setting good boundaries. Regards, Mike

I was starting to feel unusually well yesterday evening. Today shakiness and numbness is back. With the New Year's activities coming up tonight (plus a relative staying), I realized I was expecting too much of myself. Perfectionism! I had enough to do, just laughing at the voice in my head that...

I have realized through a lot of soul searching, that lack of boundaries with family, friends, etc has been a major theme in my life. I'm curious about what people have to say about this in relation to TMS. Especially those of us who are "goodists" with a massive rage reservoir, and a hard time...

Hi All, Following on from yesterday's talk by Dan Siegel on the Neuroscience Summit, he touched upon boundaries, empathy and compassion. I just wanted to share this clip by Brene Brown on this very subject.

I have TMS. I've had a really great week. After listening to all of Alan Gordon's audio clips, I realized that I need to increase my soothe to rage ratio and that I have spent a lifetime scaring myself. I have chronic shoulder pain, some neck pain and the muscles between my shoulder blades get...

In the past few days, some previously unrecognized-as-TMS symptoms have popped up; they are not completely new - just not my initial presenting issue ..(which happily, remains away). Interestingly, the issue of symptom substitution is part of the focus of this particular lesson. After several...