Recent content by Ren

Thanks guys. I still feel as if I don't fully get it, but maybe I need to accept that I never really will, and that even if I find answers to my current questions, my brain will continue to generate further questions, issues and problems to punch holes in my understanding, because constantly...

Aw, plum, you're not just a caregiver in real-life - you're a caregiver for all of us! Not really sure what I'd have done without all of your wise and loving posts. And to contribute to the thread - I'm out of work, yeah. I had to drop out of University early last year because I broke down...

Great, thanks for the response TG. That's genuinely really helpful! I very much appreciate you sticking with my huge post and offering me some advice. Thinking of emotions as purely physical reactions (and the negative thoughts which we label as 'emotions' are actually that which arise in...

Hi everyone! Despite already knowing that the most effective advice in response to my upcoming questions/worries is likely to be 'stop worrying, obsessing and overthinking - you're TMSing!,' whatever I do, I can't quite seem to shake these particular fear thoughts. Often, I'll be successfully...

Hi Todd! Welcome. I've got two pieces of advice for you: 1) Even if there happens to be a structural component to your pain, the techniques, practices and methods you'll find here can (and likely will) help. One fact is important to remember - regardless of whether the pain is 'physical' (such...

I don't have much to add, since I think Andy pretty much covered it. I just wanted to offer some solidarity and empathy, since I have headache issues. It used to be completely intractable, but I've gotten it down now to the stage where it's intermittent. I still have constant head pressure (the...

Hi there @Mtn biker - sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. Trying to navigate through all of this can be a hugely frustrating ordeal, I know! I just thought I'd chime in, as from reading your posts, you sound an awful lot like me, about a year ago. I've been dealing with different...

Aw, thanks plum! I do very much appreciate the kind words. It's taken me a good while to get to this point, but I feel like taking part and posting on this forum is hastening my understanding (and hopefully my recovery!). So I'll definitely continue to post. I'll also just quickly say that I...

You were right - that was extraordinarily helpful! Thank you. It allowed me to tie together my understanding a little more. I'd be lying if I said I understood fully, but really, do any of us? Do we need to? Probably not. I think I'm beginning to become sharper in recognising my own defence...

Thanks so much for this post, plum! It really helped me make sense of a lot of things. I've been overly committed to discovering my emotions - searching for the 'holy grail,' as if it were - as well as constantly being paranoid that I'm being a repressor. I think it's a big sign that when I'm...

I am so, so sorry that this has happened to you. First and foremost, please don't end up blaming yourself for the actions of your husband. It's not your fault and you don't deserve this. I'm afraid I'm unable to recommend any good literature on marriage, since I'm not married, and never have...

Ok, great! Thank you very much for sharing that. It definitely does help. To be honest, when I reflect on things, I've been mostly the same way. When I've been able to just let go, as if it were, even if haven't had much success with emotional work, the pain and pressure sensation in my head...

Hi all! I've been browsing this forum for a couple months, but felt it was about time I made an account and introduced myself. Firstly, I just want to say a huge thank you to all of you, in particular to the regular contributors here. You've helped massively with my understanding of TMS, and...