Recent content by homorobothead

Girl, get your rampage on. I am so, so proud of you! I cannot wait to hear what you get up to. My favorite affirmation is: "Setting Boundaries is An Act of Love." And it is! For you and others. Keep going!

Lots of excellent advice here! May I also suggest Alan Gordon's book The Way Out? I don't know if you have history of sexual trauma like I do, but for me, I really needed a much gentler voice than Sarno (and Sachs honestly). He's the OG and I wouldn't have found the work without him, but being...

@JanAtheCPA, thank you so much for linking everyone. My husband is a computer scientist and he built the website, so he'll be tickled that you like the design. He's working on fixing that little issue with the link as we speak! Those psychedelic patterns were just a little experiment, so I was...

@berlinale, I know how it feels to be both happy and jealous of someone you care about. I'm so honored that you feel comfortable enough to tell me that. Here's the thing, I'm staying right here, because I know you can do this and I wouldn't want to miss that (if you plan on sticking around...

@Cactusflower, I actually think we are kindred spirits in a lot of ways. <3 You inspire me stand up for what's right. No waffling. Brave and true. Thank you for your support and for that unflinching and excellent advice. Keep on keeping on, Rachael

@Diana-M, Your soft heart is a testament to how beautiful humanity can be. I'm so inspired by someone who has endured hardship like you, but remains so gentle and yet so brave. Thank you so much for your support. I hope I can be as good a friend as you've been to me (and I'll bet everyone you...

Thank you so much @JanAtheCPA! Honestly, without your support and guidance, I wouldn't have been able to make this kind of progress. Your consistent voice kept me going. I absolutely love having counsel from my friends who've been around the block and seen it all. I hope to be able to help...

Hey everyone! Today is the last day in the SEP for me and I wanted to let y'all know how grateful I am to all of you. I seriously could not have done this without your encouragement, your friendship, and your gentle prodding. I would say say that I am 99% better. I plan to do Kristen Neff's...

Hello @Berlineale! It is idyllic, but we do have a ton or bugs and it gets HOT here in the summer. Like, 35 C is not uncommon for 4 months or so. We technically have the same climate as Uganda and Okinawa, though our monsoon season is much shorter. But, I love it. I like the heat and would...

I've seen a lot of great advice on here already, but I'd like to take a different tack, from the perspective of your daughter. I was a university instructor and academic advisor for years and worked with people your daughter's age for about ten years in the university setting. They felt more...

Hey @berlinale! I didn't realize I hadn't waxed poetic about where I live. ;) I'm located in a very rural area in coastal Mississippi, the closest town is Saucier, MS. We get hurricanes and tornados here, but it kind of binds the community tightly, so in a way it's nice, if kind of scary. We...

@berlinale! I'm so glad to see you here. How are YOU doing? I was thinking about you the other day, because (and don't laugh - or maybe do - laughter is good for us) I do these bike rides on my exercise bike where this Austrian couple films their bike rides all over the countryside of Europe...

@Meblue, Girl, I didn't realize that you hadn't seen a doctor yet! Listen, what you're doing is a form of avoidance. You're afraid that a doctor will say there is or isn't something wrong with you. Both will require change and change is scary. You need to see a doctor ASAP. Not necessarily...

@JanAtheCPA, damn you've always got dat good advice. I'm definitely going to ask him if he's reacting to old negative memories of some other relationship when this comes up again, instead of repeating the same silly patterns. :) No ill effects! Though he (and he's so good about this) later said...