This is one aspect of my healing that I rarely talk about. It took me a long, long time to recognise and then understand my addiction to harmful/abusive relationships. These days I am free from it all but it took me quite a time to untangle the knots of abuse (I was 14/15 at the time) and how it lead to utterly unconsconcious patterns driving me for over 2 decades.
The beauty and surety of a healthy relationship is the most valuable touchstone and resource in my life. It is the healing element and the source of all goodness.
These two resources helped me a lot:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/00...eywords=robin+norwood+women+who+love+too+much
And Pete Walker's identification of the fawn response (in addition to fight-flight-freeze). This link explains the 4 types and possible hybrids. There is a page on the site featuring the fawn response and co-dependency which is worth reading. His whole site is an amazing resource, not the least because of his naming and understanding of Chronic PTSD. The man is a gem.
http://pete-walker.com/fourFs_TraumaTypologyComplexPTSD.htm (Pete Walker, M.A. Psychotherapy)
As I say, it took me ages to really comprehend how much these factors were at play for me. Such was my denial.
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