What do you do when the emotions don't release?

Ive been doing energy healing since 2003 and seen around a dozen/healers therapists.

I'm not closer to getting better now than I was 23 years ago.

I'm fully connected emotionally, that's one thing I have learned, however the more connected i feel , the worse I feel, it just gives me more anxiety.

Changing were I live, changing jobs etc hasn't helped, the only relief I get is getting drunk once a week

There seems to be the opinion that connecting to your emotions is a good thing but I've found that to be the opposite

 

Well, it's a mindbody work and not just mind. There is the very unconfortable process of exposing yourself physically and what I see here in the forum (don't know if it's your case) is people using the emotional work in the perfectionist frame of "when I get better I start the physical work."

 

Sarno said that recovery involves thinking psychologically. The psyche involves emotions and thoughts. I feel strongly that in order to improve we have to address our thinking patterns and change the dysfunctional ones. Journaling is a good tool to uncover our true emotions, but it is also important in helping us view our thinking patterns and then evaluate if they appear to be contributing to our anxiety and unhappiness. We have to change in order to recover, and that doesn't mean that we just recognize our emotions. We have a free program on this site called the Structured Education Program which has us look at both emotions and thinking patterns through daily exercises.

 

Hi Lee, I am curious to know what it means to you to be fully connected emotionally and what this entails.

To me, and this is probably more of a Western society issue, emotions are meant to flow in and out quite quickly (assuming the threat isn't constant, sometimes it is but it often isn't). If you're having anxiety around the emotions, then to me that relates more to how you feel about the specific emotions and how you relate to them.

To use anger as an example - if someone is completely comfortable with anger, doesn't think being angry is bad and doesn't judge themselves for being angry - then there's no reason for the emotion to cause anxiety or linger longer than necessary. It could be quite transient in that case - the person feels anger and acknowledges it - it may require some sort of action or it may not - and then the person returns to baseline. A big part of the TMS work is becoming comfortable with your full emotional range. This can be difficult because a lot of us have been taught in childhood that certain emotions are bad - I know that I never allowed myself to feel anger and had a lot of shame attached to my anger before I healed (and not surprisingly, allowing this was a big part of my healing). For some people it can be sadness (if you were taught it was weak to cry as an example) or even happiness (if X person in the household isn't happy, no-one can be).

I would say learning to allow your emotions is the key, and you'll only know which ones you are in opposition towards if you connect with them per se