TMS lists: specific event?

[HPJM]

Hey everyone. On day 3 of the program. Am I meant to write down one specific event, or events as a series?

For instance, I got bullied at school. Do I write down the whole sequence of experiences as being unpleasant, or remember and write down each particular incident?

 

[SunnyinFL]

Hey everyone. On day 3 of the program. Am I meant to write down one specific event, or events as a series?

For instance, I got bullied at school. Do I write down the whole sequence of experiences as being unpleasant, or remember and write down each particular incident?

Hi HPJM,

I didn't write the question, so I don't know for sure what the writer had in mind - but, I don't think that matters too much. I think that what matters is how YOU think about YOUR OWN past events. For example, if YOU think about being bullied by one person over a period of time as one pattern that you can process and deal with with one entry, then use one entry. In contrast, if YOU think about distinct instances of bullying that YOU feel you need to process and release separately, then use separate entries. The question also notes that you will come back to this list, use it to journal, and that you can update it or revise it in any way that works best for YOU.

Most of us TMSers are perfectionists and try hard and want to do everything "just right." In this case, "just right" means what works for YOU. I encourage you to use the SEP as a tool that you use and modify as necessary for your specific needs. Please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to listen to and follow your own internal wisdom - I think that will lead you where you need to go.

Hope this helps! Good luck and keep us posted, Sunny