All the Rage Film Thanksgiving is the Start of pain season

[Caroline Rumur]

Anyone who understands the work of Dr. Sarno knows that family interactions are a hotbed of unconscious rage. We put together a blog post that should serve as a reminder to everyone to "be good to themselves". When we dig deep and find empathy for others it also helps us to find empathy for ourselves.

One of the biggest hurdles that people face when they are reckoning with the realities that their own emotions might be causing their pain, is the resistance that they face from others. Everything we think and feel has a cultural basis to it. It's always difficult to see around the societal structures and ideas that we live within. As such, if we want to help our culture to embrace the idea that our emotions, especially our unconscious ones, could be causing our pain, then we have to share our stories and share this information. Please share this holiday post, remind others how important Dr. Sarno is to you, and tell them why this film is so important.

Thank you!

PS This holiday season remember to check in with yourself on a frequent basis, and remember to pay attention to what your body is telling you. Just as our children get mad at us, and act out, when we aren't paying proper attention to them, so does our inner child. Sometimes, with our kids, all we have to do to avoid a meltdown is to simply acknowledge them - and their feelings. The same is true for ourselves. Sometimes we just need to acknowledge what we feel.

Here's one more clip from Ashok Gupta that puts this all in perspective. Have a good week and a "present" holiday

 

[Mala]

The thing is not to put pressure on yourself to do things perfectly. Enlist help from family members. Ask them to bring something for the table. Ask kids to help with setting the table & planning games. Family gatherings are hard work at the best of times. Take it easy on yourselves & remember the aim is to have fun & enjoy each other's company. Let go of those perfectionist tendencies. There is nothing to prove.

Here in HK most ppl at will order their turkey & what have you at Thanksgiving & Christmas to make life easier. There is also a growing trend to book a table at a restaurant & let someone else do the hard work.

Mala

 

[Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)]

Holidays can be the most stressful times of the year... especially Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years.
We get together more with family and friends and old memories about those holidays come to mind, often for bad and not good.
We need to keep everything in perspective and, if pain surfaces, if we think a while on why those were stressful times,
it can lead us to better understanding and then to forgiveness, which results in healing.