New Pain Surge....TMS?

[lexylucy]

Hi guys. Feel a little out of touch with the forum. That is because for the most part I have had far less pain these days!! I feel so thankful.

However I am having a surge right now. I think it is because I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to start a new business. i am excited about this business but there are so many decisions to make and I feel overwhelmed, financially stressed, and in a rush to take action in directions I'm not sure I want to go yet. But I feel under pressure because I am living off my savings and I do not like this.

So I think my TMS is distracting me with pain. But it is also making me remember that I just can't do everything at once. And I would like to feel more comfortable and open in asking people for help and advise.

There is also a new love interest and it is coming at a weird time in my life. I had a steady job for 4 years up until a few weeks ago. So I just feel uneasy talking about my life. But as I said it is an exciting time.

Thanks for your input and for listening

LexyLucy

 

[Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)]

Hi, lexylucy.

It's easy to understand why you feel new symptoms. Starting a new business and being in a new relationship are two common causes of TMS.
I'm glad to know you are not in much pain. That means you are handling your life pretty well.


I'd like to know what kind of business you are starting. I left the corporate world more than 40 years ago (I was a magazine editor and wrote speeches) and became a fulltime freelance writer of books, mostly for preteens and teenagers ( see www.walteroleksybooks.com). I haven't become rich but still love writing books.

As for financial stresses, you and I are both in the same boat and we have lots of company. Keep positive and you will ride out the money storms.
I have all these years of being self-employed. No one can lay me off or fire me. I am my own boss and love it.

 

[JanAtheCPA]

Hi LL! It's good to see you here! You are indeed having an exciting time, aren't you? I would say there's no doubt about why you're having a surge, and at a time when there's so much going on, it's hard to take a little time to examine some of your feelings, and I'm guilty myself of not taking that time, but I know it's what works.

My one lingering symptom was so bad between April 15 (tax day) and May 13 (departure for a trip to Spain) that it even (briefly) crossed my mind to cancel the trip, but I dismissed that, because I knew it was just the stress of all the things I had to do between those two dates, including two things that were not originally on the schedule. That and some fear of the unknown (I've traveled a lot, but I always stress out about it). As soon as I was in Spain, staying with friends, with a trip all planned out by one of them - and with NO responsibilities for the next three weeks except to enjoy myself - I forgot about my symptoms. And I had a fantastic time.

A new business is exciting - I would also love to know more, if you're willing, that is. I've been self-employed since 1988, in a field with plenty of ongoing work, but with its own challenges, such as constantly-changing tax laws and malpractice risk. But I love being my own boss, engaging with clients the way I want to, and answerable to them directly.

And a new romance on top of that? OMG, girl! That alone can create conflicting emotions. Remember, your brain THINKS it knows what is good to hide from you - but it's typically way too conservative. Take a bit of time to examine those conflicting emotions, get them out where you can look at them. That might help.

It's all exciting - keep us posted!

JanA