Day 10 Letter to self

[Toby2015]

Ok so I had a bit of a reality check on day 9.
All my current stresses are based on me. No names in there, no major issues (at the mo) yet I stress myself over work, aging, how I look, health.
SO. I decided to write a letter to me.
I haven't finished it yet either. I've found it quite interesting. I would even treat my worst enemy like I treat myself.
I'm going to revisit this journal entry and keep adding, think I might be on to something here...

 

[SophieM]

Hi Toby,
I have found that too. I wasn't really aware of it until a few days ago but I now realise that I have been so angry at myself and so self punishing. It has been quite a surprising thing to discover. Last night I found a youtube video on self-forgiveness by Tara Brach that really helped me start thinking towards myself in a more compassionate way. I dont know if it will be useful for you but here it is:

Good luck with your TMS journey, it sounds like you are doing great work already.
Sophie

 

[Toby2015]

Hi Sophie
Thank you for the link, I will definitely watch it.
It is strange how we fail to see the abuse we inflict on ourselves, I'm quite upset that I have chosen to do this to myself for so long. I wonder where or what I be if I'd been loving and but trunk towards myself.
I wish you a lot of luck on your road to recovery too.

 

[Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)]

I keep in mind how much I have accomplished in 85 years, both in career (writing books) and in relationships with family and friends and it helps me to think kindly of myself. Most of us are a lot better to others than we are to ourselves, but we have to work on balance.

Toby, I like it that you are writing to yourself and discovering you are a good guy.

Sophie, thanks for sharing that Tara Brach video. Forgiving others and ourselves is so important toward being healthy and happy. My dog knows all about this. She forgives me all the time, for not being as perfect a dog owner as she is a dog. I guess that's what is called unconditional love.