Recent content by HattieNC

Plum, I just saw this. I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious mother. My mother passed 10 years ago, I think about her every day. I've found solace in surrounding myself with small items that belonged to her. Candles, pillows, vases, etc.. Many of these items we shopped for together...

I've been away from the forum for a few weeks and was saddened to read of your struggles Plum. It sounds like you could use some of the grace, forgiveness, and self-care you so kindly and enthusiastically bestow to others. My husband and I were part-time caregivers for aging parents for...

Hi leomessi45, Just curious if you fall into some of the more typical TMS personality types: people pleaser, perfectionist, goodist, overly concerned with what other people think. Or, do gave a difficult time feeling and expressing emotions? Dr. Sarno does an excellent job of explaining all the...

Thank you for letting us know. I've been missing Walt's wisdom and wondered if he was okay.

I would say that 95% of the people I come into contact with on a daily basis have absolutely no idea I have almost debilitating muscle spasms. This is my last lingering TMS manifestation. If you read my profile, you will see how far I've come since 2014. I'm an expert at smiling and covering up...

What's the dumbest thing you spent money on? Mine is an inversion table taking up way too much room in my grandkids toy room.

Yes Linny, I believe in signs.... from God, the universe, or mortal beings. You shouldn't have to settle for emotional crumbs. You are better than that. I see you as a strong woman who is doing the best she can in these circumstances- but when the time is right, will soar on her own. My...

Plum, I'm so glad what I wrote made your day a tiny bit better. A small payback for all the times you've helped me. Whenever I find myself being too self critical, I think "what would Plum advise, what would she do in this situation?" Lately, I find that it's becoming more automatic/...

Linny, Plum is the expert on this site about self-love and compassion. I suggest you go back through her posts and read all of them. Or better yet, print them so you can have reminders close by. Also, there are a lot of books and articles about how to have self-compassion (minus the positive...

I can't add anything to the insightful posts by Baseball65 & Jan, except to acknowledge the impact that a chronically sick parent can make on our lives. As far back as I can remember, my mother was always sick. Arthritis, headaches, insomnia, anxiety. She wasn't abusive, just sickly. As she got...

Hi Plum, I want to thank you for posting this link. As you may remember, I've been on this Wiki quite a while. I've gone from being almost home-bound to exercising 5 days per week and living a normal life. However, one TMS "affliction" that I haven't been able to rid myself of, are stabbing...

miffybunny, Simple but profound explanation that is worth repeating. Brilliant!

And, here's the link to the book for those of us in the United States. Thank you Plum! I will be reading this since my father, father-in-law, and mother all were diagnosed with Parkinson's. My mother's diagnosis was late in her life and was slow progressing, so it didn't have a significant...

I had my gallbladder removed 9 years ago. Laparoscopic outpatient surgery. Easy peasy, I think I took 3 days off from work. I don't have to watch my diet and I have no lasting negative effects. Please don't read the horror stories about gallbladder surgery on the Internet. Most of my friends and...

I think you can choose to get angry. Those of us with TMS are experts at stuffing down the natural anger and rage that the rest of the world feels. You have to consciously give yourself permission to feel and express "ugly" emotions again. It's a process. I have a very negative husband. We've...