Recent content by BonnieLass

I absolutely understand the constant obsessive thoughts: what is this pain, twinge, what does it mean, do I need to see a doc, if I do, will I learn anything, why doesn't it just go away, I hate this, I need some relief, etc. etc. etc. Your description of a person inside yelling "FIRE! FIRE!" is...

It started with what seemed like sciatica in my right leg in the fall of 2018. Excruciating pain when walking. I couldn't even put on socks, because I couldn't bend my leg to put my right ankle on my left knee. Went to my PCP because I thought it might be a blood clot. I didn't have any other...

I dearly love you animal lovers! I am exactly the same way! There are plenty of times when I stop and wonder what the heck I'm even doing here on this planet. I almost died three times before my second birthday and I think that when I got here I realized I didn't want to be in this life and...

As my late husband (a pilot) used to say, "I'm out of airspeed, altitude, and ideas." You are THE expert on your situation. :) All the best to you.

Lizzy, I'm so sorry. I'm guessing that early separation deeply affected your dad. And for you not to feel safe around him-- that certainly deeply affected you. Even if the world is dangerous, you should be able to feel safe around your parent. Not to be able to is to undermine your most...

I feel like I'm beating up on you, and I don't want to come across that way. But I know you're looking for answers. You are full of rage and acknowledge that. But it's not the feelings that we're aware of that cause the problem (TMS or other problems). It's unconscious feelings, in this case...

When I started a similar thread in the General Discussion forum, I was surprised that it got very little traction. I don't understand why there's not more discussion of the fear of real life-threatening danger that COVID has immersed us in. It's one thing to go to a bunch of doctors who tell you...

I think this principle applies in this thread because the thought, "This works for everyone else but not for me," can be one of those defenses. Not saying it always is, but can be. I'll look into that book. Thanks.

@eskimoeskimo I totally get your frustration. I feel for you, my friend. Let me just toss out a couple of things... 1) You are hedging, i.e., not really authentically giving up. You're like the person who has dumped their boy/girlfriend, but can't resist checking out their social media, asking...

I actually sent her a tweet and told her to stop using vocal fry! Here's her twitter handle: The term "leap of faith" is grossly and inappropriately overused... but it may apply here.

That is absolutely maddening! I really get that you are completely frustrated and don't know what to do next. I'm so sorry, and I want to give you big hugs and sit with you and bring you tea...

It's one of the very first lectures that you come to in the app. I have to read the transcript because I can't stand the voice of the woman who reads the lectures. I understand she's one of the founders/creators of the app. She does that thing that some women speakers do called "vocal fry,"...

Is it reasonable to you? What would the validation of the TMS community mean to you? I don't mean that rhetorically; I mean it literally. How would it feel?

Thank you so much for not dismissing my reply. That means a lot to me. One other thought I had... I've used the Curable app some. It's okay and can be helpful. But the one lecture that REALLY got my attention, and I've listened to it over and over, is called, "What does the pain mean to you?"...