Recent content by Bhamgirl

@Diana-M Thank you for letting me into a little of your history. I always watched as parents, especially mothers, seemed to be at a loss after their children left for college, and I promised myself I would not be one of "those women." I always told myself that I busted my butt to be a good...

@Cactusflower "Does all this really sound like "SAFE" - you will be separated from all you love or loved and are unsure about what will happen when you move. It's OK to be going through it at this time. I think you are mostly afraid of going through all this." What great insight. As I...

@JanAtheCPA I don't post often, but you never fail to provide me with great advice. I read your message late yesterday and sat with it for awhile. I put your words into actions every time I started catastrophizing or felt a pain surge. It wasn't perfect, but it did help ease the symptoms for...

@MWsunin12 Thank you so much for your response. I never thought about returning to my hometown as going backwards. It is where my son will be in boarding school, and I have been excited about my return but even more grateful to be leaving my current city. With that said, it makes sense. It...

Hi all, I need help. I'm really bad at admitting that. But I have to learn to reach out when I am struggling to do the work. For the last several weeks, I have been dealing with a return of back pain. I have been trying to think psychologically and am VERY aware of the insane amount of...

I can't tell you how many times this exact dialogue plays in my head. Week after week. I have plenty of evidence that this is all, or at least a great deal, is TMS. I need to be kinder to myself in this process and rather than give up, maybe move a little slower. It's just those damn twinges...

Hi all, I have battled with my most recent onset of back pain for about a year now. I was a "book cure" many, many years ago, and I also employed Sarno's methods for small flares here and there. This time I seem to be stuck. I don't know if it's the complete shit storm that is my personal...

Thank you so much @Cactusflower! You are absolutely correct that I MUST start advocating for myself. As a typical TMSer (and as a mom), I've always put everyone before me. It has landed me in this situation, and I can no longer allow the fear to keep me from moving forward with making the...

Hi all, I was looking for a little guidance. I would love to know some measures people have taken when close personal relationships are the source of pain. Specifically, I have been in a very toxic marriage for well over a decade. There is a plethora of discussion about the internal (past...

"WEAR IT LOOSELY". Found my new mantra!

Jan, how have you handled the autoimmune diagnosis as well as TMS. I have followed your posts for years now, and you are always such an inspiration and have so much spunk I can't help but want to be your friend! Aside from the perimenopause questions, I have dealt with the "maybe some day"...

Thank you so much, ladies! I have been slow to reply as I have had two uncles and my stepfather pass away in the last two weeks. It's been a rollercoaster for sure. I completely agree that the inundation of perimenopause/menopause information on social media and elsewhere has led to a fear of...

Hi Everyone, I was hoping I could get some feedback, especially from the wonderful women on here. I have been off the forums for some time now, but I recently started having a flare of lower back/SI joint pain. I have periodically dealt with similar issues for the last several decades and...