What TMS is teaching me

I have been wrestling with some painful truths for a while now. Some of the people I love hurt me deeply.

I’ve had to learn how to see abuse for what it is. How to stop excusing it. How to love myself, so I don’t feel tempted to put up with things.

It’s ok to factor myself into my life equation. I’m not just here to let other people act out their mental illnesses on me. I’m not just here for other people.

This is a little bit of what I’m learning in the massive life overhaul that is TMS. There is a long list. And some other lessons are also coming along. On rare clear days, I can vaguely grasp the magnitude of the progress. It’s honestly amazing.

 

I feel like when we do the work, it's like peeling back layers-like an onion. We get clarity. Then we do more work and get even more clarity. When I first started learning about TMS, I was super jealous about the ones that get the book cure. But now I understand that the book cure doesn't help us change what was causing the sensations. By doing the work, we get to know ourselves again and what a gift it is!

My latest "aha! moment" was knowing it was ok to be selfish and to take care of me. Just like you wrote this-