I realized that I had been angry all the time about things that were merely annoying, not things I was really angry about: bad drivers, slow lines at the store, getting a red light, kids misbehaving at the dinner table, etc., instead of things from the past that were the source of my anger: betrayal by friends and siblings, parental disapproval and leaving me to clean up their messes when they died, romantic wrongs, and much other unaddressed anger. Of course that is a long list, too long for here. But unearthing these is what must be done, and I have found that such work has freed me from being mad and having outbursts over annoyances. That was just a displacement. I have stopped pounding the steering when when I get a red light when late. I have started reflecting and journaling to unearth and address the real source of anger in my life.