Hi all, I started working with a psychologist a few weeks ago and one of the issues that came up is my relationship with my family - more specifically the few aunts and uncles who take care of my mentally ill mom. I have always felt judged and misunderstood by them. They have no idea why my relationship with my mom might be hard for me. In their view, I am at fault because I cannot let go of the past (childhood with a schizophrenic mom and violent alcoholic father) and I should learn to live in the present more. They have never shown any empathy toward me and just seem genuinely confused by my distancing behaviour. The psychologist recommended that I speak up and share my side of the story with them. Maybe they will understand and be able to be more supportive. I would like to tell them that when they deny the past, they are really hurting me. I like the idea of getting some of my pain off my chest, but I am so scared about doing this. My anxiety is through the roof just thinking about it and I'm not sleeping well, which never happens to me. I know that tms recovery is based on journaling, but what role can speaking up play? Is it necessary for healing? I'm just not sure that exposing myself to further criticism or judgement would be helpful. Or maybe the psychologist is right and I should give them a chance. Has anybody experienced something similar? If so, how did things work out?