How do you feel your feelings and still think positively? What to do when other people don't want you to feel your feelings? I've noticed a lot of posts on the forum lately on thinking positively (some of them were probably from me ). I'm kind of conflicted on this... I've had anxiety issues most of my life and in 2001 I developed panic disorder (I haven't had any panic attacks since the end of that year). Right around that time I did a lot of work reframing my thoughts, confronting "false beliefs" and learning to think more positively. Overall that really helped me a lot, but I now wonder if I have been using postive thinking as another way to repress certain feelings that seem negative or bad...and I think those feelings were what really drove the whole TMS pain process. Part of why journaling was so intense for me was that I found there were all of these feelings that I hadn't been letting myself really feel that were coming to the surface. In the past I might have briefly acknowledged these feelings and then tried to move into more positive thoughts. But when I really sat with them it was pretty heavy. Here's an example: I teach meditation and energy healing and a few years ago one of my students committed suicide. I hadn't talked to him in a few years and found out through another student. When I got this phone call I just remember feeling nothing. I went to talk to my roommate about it, hoping that talking with someone would help me process whatever I was feeling. I remember him saying, oh, that's terrible, I'm really sorry...hey, you know what will make you feel better [some random comic strip he thought was funny]. Really? WTF? Can I not even be sad when someone dies? Another layer to this whole situation is that the student who committed suicide also knew a friend of mine at the time. She was understandably having a really hard time with it and was calling me multiple times a day to talk about it. Long story short, she was a very forceful, domineering person (who I'm no longer in contact with) and whenever we talked about this man's death it was all about what she was feeling and I wasn't really able to express or even access any of what I was feeling, even though I had known him a lot longer than she had. This is not to blame her or my roommate or anyone else...I certainly could have let myself feel how much this was bothering me when I was alone. I think I felt like I had to be positive and supportive (of her). So even though this student took his own life years ago, I still haven't felt it...or maybe I just don't have that much to feel about it. I wonder if it's too late to find out.