Hi, I used the forums and structured programme and also worked through a programme with Georgie Oldfield about 4 years ago. I overcame severe back pain and have been virtually pain free since. I try to keep up the good habits that helped me. In the last 6 months or so my husband has had 3 bouts of very similar pain. It was him who came across TMS and helped me on the road to recovery so he's fully 'on board'. but not ennough to spend time doing journaling or meditation. he wants to just believe and have the pain go away - which it has twice! Right now he can barely move. And I can barely bear to be around him. It's a mixture of just not being able to bear seeing him in pain ( unfair as he cared for me for months) and having run out of things to say ("try journalling", "look at the TMS wiki") - how can I be sympathetic and yet not nag him? - also I am scared. . scared I will develop paina gain somehow - maybe by thinking about pain so much? or by his actions somehow undermining my belief in the TMS theory? I don't know but I have been at work all day and suspect he has been in bed all day and I am scared to go home! Any thoughts?