Hi everyone I'm seeking some advice which is creating some emotional turmoil at the moment for me. During the terrible pain episode last year, which started the moment I have birth to my son, and the leg/back pain was promptly blammed by the birth to a big baby when i am quite small, which I know of course know to be rubbish. The whole ordeal was intensified by poor health care from the good old NHS here in the UK. Whilst the National Health Service is a blessing it is creaking under the pressure and cuts from the government etc means at times the wait to be treated can be forever. Of course all of this came long before I knew about TMS and I would be a very different person then if I knew what I know now. Anyway, at the time the delay from the NHS, the miscommunication, the being passed from pillar to post, coupled with cold treatment from nursing staff that waved me on my way, after my son was born, with a Zimmer frame and 'safe' painkillers to take whilst breatfeeding, all added to my fear of what the hell was happening to my body and why was I in so much pain and couldn't even sit up to feed my newborn. This 'fear' went on for 5months until I finally had back surgery. Now I know about TMS I regret the back surgery, especially as it certainly wasn't a placebo for me! Anyway, the reason I post all this is because my Mother has been pursuing a legal case in clinical negligence which I have not really wanted her too but the 'goodist' in me recognises that she needs to do it to help purge some of her feelings of wishing she had done more and wanting to help me now in all that was suffered through not just the pain but the financial loss of not working, having to pay for help with my baby etc (my mum does not live close to me so at times she wasn't staying I think felt helpless). I have sort of let her get on with it as she has done a lot on my behalf but now tomorrow I have to speak to the lawyer about events. I just dont want to do it but equally I don't want to hurt my mum as she is only doing this for me. I have told her about TMS but she doesn't fully understand, though is not resistant. She is fixated on this legal case and I feel it negates my recovery process as drags up the whole thing as if it were a physical issue when I am working toward a full understanding and acceptance of a TMS approach. Writing all this down is very personal and quite lenghty but I suppose I am looking for some advice on what anyone might do as I have a good relationship with my mum and what she is doing isn't wrong but I suppose is the wrong angle but she doesn't quite understand. I don't want to hurt her as that hurts me but is there anyway I can do this phonecall or will it but a block in my healing process? Any help is so appreciated and thank you for taking the time if anyone replies!