I've got a family full of opinions & advice... especially when it comes to my kids. The first part of this post is a rant - feel free to skip it ... the second part is a question for all of you: RANT - The family is supportive of my efforts to overcome TMS and acknowledge that I am anxious but they decide to help me out by adding to the anxiety? Thank you so much for the help! How about just chilling? Honestly, if I did everything everyone asks everyday my kids would be practicing baseball, soccer, swimming, piano, a foreign language , school work, table manners, cleaning the house (must learn responsibility at age 6) … and of course there’s fun – like in the old days when kids just played outside all day. But honestly, looking at this list when would these kids have time for that? But, the trade off would be that they’d be perfect ,wouldn’t they? And it’s my job to make sure they end up that way? Forget that and forget them. My children will not be raised to think that they have to be a virtuoso or savant in order to be worthy of love. QUESTION - But, children must be taught impulse control. They cannot throw tantrums in school, with friends, etc. And laziness shouldn't be encouraged. They should be encouraged to do their best. How do you - especially with children who exhibit tendencies toward TMS personalities - find a middle ground?