There is nothing wrong with our family…and you better not tell anyone there is. Is it standard for dysfunctional families to hide their dysfunction? Or be in complete denial of it? There was this dynamic in my family where we were supposed to pretend that everything was normal and nothing was wrong with our family. And my mom was a good person with the misfortune of dealing with two difficult kids. My mom just comes out as so incredibly nice no one could possibly think anything bad of her. So of course letting out my true feelings on this meant I was a bad person. What legitimate anger would I feel toward someone who is so persistent nice?