Hi, I’m trying to figure out why a guy who was interested in me seems to avoid me now. We had the same gym schedule so I would see him often. He’s an impressively well built and handsome man so I’m very intimidated by him. To break the ice, I’ve recently spoken with him a few times in short conversations. I started to wave more and more at him as I became less scared of him. Sometimes though, I still havent dare saying hi to him in fear of not being acknowledged or bothering him if he’s focused on his workout. In the past, he had given me a stern look whenever I glanced at him. He might have been sensing that I was attracted to him. But why would he act like that if he’s attracted to me as well? Other times, he passed by me pretending not to see me. I had grown tired of having to be the first one to say hi or wait for him to make eye contact. One day I decided not to wave at him and just made a small smile at him that he must have missed. He then left his workout station right away. He only came back when I was with a personal trainer and I tried to make him jealous with the latter one. I remember him looking at me as he left the gym but I had no idea that it would be the last time I would see him. I’m wondering if he’s upset because of the situation with the personal trainer or he’s embarrassed that he was obviously showing more interest in me and I pretended that I didn’t care although I do a lot. He has a big ego and so do I but anyone has any idea why he’s avoiding me. It’s been a month since he hasn’t showed up at the gym. I asked a staff member about his whereabouts and was told he comes at an earlier time and he went out of town for a while. I’m heartbroken but most importantly I want to clear out any confusion and tell him the truth about the situation. I think it would give me relief and to him too. I understand that I’m struggling with only perceptions but I know that he’s upset and I fear it. My mind seems to go over and over the problem even when I wake up in the middle of the night. I feel a burning pain in my back too whenever I think about this. Thanks for helping me solve this dilemma.