When I feel self critical and compare myself to others, coming out on the losing end, I try to look at what I am feeling more objectively. Are they really better than me.? What within me needs to devalue myself, has a stake in me feeling bad about myself? I have a model of my inner self as a bus, with all the different parts of me as passengers who all want to drive “my bus”. There can only be one driver at a time. I try to isolate that passenger on my bus who drives me to feel self-critical and get them out of the driver’s seat. I look to realize that that aspect of myself is only a very small part of who I am. Sometimes I just allow that negative feeling some space to play itself out, take a short drive, almost encouraging it and cheering it on so that it runs out of steam. The key for me is not to become fully identified with that part of me, not to give over complete power and have it overwhelm me. Just being aware is the first step towards that separation. Knowing my patterns also helps. “This too shall pass” is a great mantra for me, knowing that over time, that which seems true and absolute will dissolve as just another momentary self-critical judgment that can’t hold on forever even if in the moment it may feel that way.