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Day 17 - A Step Backwards?

Discussion in 'Support Subforum' started by AngK, Jun 26, 2013.

  1. AngK

    AngK Peer Supporter

    Everything seems to be going well. The TMS symptoms have been moving around but nothing I couldn't handle... until 3 days ago. Trigger points causing pain in between my shoulder blades & neck are affecting my movement & sleep. They're relentless and I can't even find them to release them. I think I will have to break down & go to a massage therapist. I know there's nothing wrong with me... just knotty muscles deprived of oxygen b/c of my subconscious. There's nothing really more stressful about the past couple of days than any other days. I don't think anything is really "wrong"... could it just be the subconscious acting on its own... whether I need it to or not? (Kind of like allergies)?
    Anyway, off to the gym to see what I can do... I went Monday and found that it was very painful but it didn't make it worse (or better, unfortunately).
    Any suggestions or insight would be helpful!
     
  2. AngK

    AngK Peer Supporter

    I'm just now sort of getting used to journaling. It'd hard for it to flow unless I'm having a really obviously bad day.
    And I haven't tried meditation yet. I've never done it before and quite frankly I've always been a real revved up type of person. I've tried yoga classes a couple of times & my thought is always "ok, let's hurry it up" :) I can definitely see where it would be good for me, I just don't know if I could see myself doing it... especially in this chaotic house (with two small, loud, crazy boys). I don't even know if I know what to do!
     
  3. AndrewMillerMFT

    AndrewMillerMFT Well known member

    AngK,

    I found your use of the phrase, "break down" to be interesting. It may speak to the amount of pressure you're putting on yourself to treat your symptoms as PPD. You're probably right in doing it but it could also be helpful to become aware of how you feel when the PPD is acting up and how you treat yourself at those times. A more compassionate view may be to realize that people have good and bad PPD days, that their journey to symptom reduction is up and down and your experience is not uncommon. If you're able to hold that notion, what becomes the most compassionate act for yourself? Continue to challenge the symptoms? Accept them? Get a massage? All seem like fine choices to me.
     
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  4. myg

    myg New Member

    That is reassuring to know. I put a huge amount of pressure on myself as well and it is good to know that I don't always have to be making forward progress.
    Haha, that's a great story. Teenagers think they know everything.
     
  5. AngK

    AngK Peer Supporter

    I read your post last night, informed my husband that today I would be having a massage so he'd be on kid duty (he said okey-dokey) but when I woke up this morning the symptoms were gone. *rubs temples* This is all a little confusing. I suppose with time I'll get the hang of it!
     
  6. AngK

    AngK Peer Supporter

    Anne, thanks so much for your reply. I will try your suggestions. I think meditation is difficult because I always have 100 thoughts racing through my head! It's hard to slow down. I'm the type that is always shaking my foot, tapping my pen on the table, shoulders hiked up. I even wake up at night with my fists clenched. This is why I typically turn to high intensity cardio workouts to sweat off some of the extra energy. But I am thinking now that I may need to balance that with other outlets -- like meditation (in addition to what Andrew Miller suggests re: expectations of myself)
    And I can relate to the kids... I was stretching the other day and my 9 year old informed me that his friend was coming over and "please don't stretch your buttocks in front of him" :rolleyes:
     
  7. gailnyc

    gailnyc Well known member

    AngK, I've been reading your posts with great interest because you really seem to have "gotten" TMS and the healing process, and I feel that I can learn from you.

    But I wonder if you have connected being "a real revved up type of person" with TMS? Is it possible that being "revved up" has strained your nervous system, and that the pain is your nervous system's way of telling you to slow down?

    Something I started doing a few months ago was taking 5-10 minutes during my busy day to just sort of chill. I would make some tea (decaffeinated! caffeine stimulates the nervous system) and sit near a window and do nothing. I'd let my thoughts wander, or just think of nothing. It seems like we are always racing around and our bodies need a break from stress sometimes, especially those of us who put a lot of pressure on ourselves. I came to the realization that I had become addicted to my own adrenaline and have been taking steps to slow down and deactivate. (hence the switch from coffee to tea, and then from regular tea to decaf)

    Just something you might consider...
     
  8. AngK

    AngK Peer Supporter

    Oh, yes... that's an ongoing battle!
    In one of my posts (I've had several the past few days & can't keep them straight!) I wrote something that resonated with me: the pain keeps me from living in the moment for some reason. (And for the word "pain" you could insert "being busy", "revved up", etc.) I got 5 minutes to myself the other day while folding laundry (I find reflection easier when doing mundane mindless tasks) and realized that I'm afraid of being too happy. I really do have a great life: wonderful husband, the smartest, funniest kids you've ever met, money is not a problem, we're healthy. Due to childhood issues I don't trust being happy. It vanishes in a blink of an eye and leaves you feeling blindsided & stupid. I think I make myself less happy (via TMS) and thereby think I'm going to reduce the shock when that catastrophic event happens or maybe if I'm not 100% happy then the catastrophic event will bypass me entirely as if "it" only targets the really happy people (yeah, stupid I know).
    And I can tell this is a real issue b/c usually once I acknowledge an issue I feel a great sense of relief. But this one is weighing heavily on me. Every time I think about something happening to my family or this happiness, or just giving myself over to the happiness & believing in it (letting go of the cynicism), I tear up & often my chest tightens up. All the TMS experts say that fear is the most potent emotion and I believe it. I can't seem to intellectualize the fear completely away. It's not a quick fix (to my surprise). It will take time. Unfortunately I'm not known for my patience :mad:
     
  9. gailnyc

    gailnyc Well known member

    Yup yup I have a similar problem. I've always attributed it to my Jewish upbringing--we are a Pessimistic People, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Better to be miserable all the time thank risk allowing happiness to happen and then be taken away.

    I don't actually have a solution for this, although just being aware of it is a start.
     

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