Pieces of the puzzle are starting to come together. I got paddled with 6 other kids in class when I was 11 years old. The punishment was over the top compared to the deed done. All the parents met and complained to the principle. All except mine. This is a similar example of other experiences in my life. My interpretation was I was not "good enough" for them to raise a stink about. They didn't love me enough to take up for me. I got married at 17, no I was not pregnant. My parents never said a word. They didn't love me enough to stop me. Now I know that it is not true... they do love me very much. But confrontation is very difficult for them. Anger is not within their acceptable range of emotions. Mine too.