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I disagree with my earlier posts that focused too much on Ehlers-Danlos and getting stuck on the past. Heal by living and loving life again! Jun 6, 2018

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    Healing is always possible, no matter how chronic or severe the symptoms may be. It's all about trading obsession and negativity for happiness and forgiveness. Get back to fully living life again.

    Trying to heal means you're still obsessing over the symptoms in some capacity. Obsession and trying to heal encourages symptoms and stimulates the nervous system. You have to stop actively trying to heal.

    This means forgetting about the desired outcome (to heal) - and getting back to fully living your life without fear. What do you enjoy doing? What do you love about yourself? Do you connect with life and yourself through meditation, going for walks, loving others, listening to uplifting music, appreciating nature, etc.? These are simply ideas, not things you have to do. Find something that speaks to you personally and love the hell out of it.

    Understand that nothing is permanent in life, and you and your body are safe right now. None of this is permanent. You don’t even have to dwell on what caused the symptoms (this can sometimes lead to more obsession) - you only have to work toward acceptance, loving yourself, and enjoying some things in life. But do these things because love is good for your soul, not because you want to heal.

    For what it’s worth, sometimes ordering more TMS books or further researching this topic also creates more obsession. Information overload is not necessarily your friend. Believe in your ability to heal and look to people who have healed for guidance.

    There’s nothing wrong with not being healed yet, and relapses or bad days can certainly happen as we deal with difficult situations and powerful emotions throughout our lives (none of us are perfect with flawless lives), but be mindful of advice from anyone who is obsessed with and fearful of their own symptoms. It’s like taking financial advice from someone still working their way out of bankruptcy; they can and will absolutely come back stronger than ever and eliminate fear and obsession one day, but they aren’t there today. And that’s 100% OK because we’ve all been there - otherwise we wouldn’t be on this forum at all. I wish I had known that while I was still healing and feeling terrified because I was primarily interacting with people who were in just as bad of a place as me. It made me think healing wasn’t possible. Many of us have healed!

    As I always say, TMS is not an actual medical condition. Nobody “has” TMS. It’s a natural bodily response to emotions - every single individual who has been on this planet experiences it. The body is designed to respond to our emotions - it’s the mind-body connection: this is why wounds have been scientifically documented to heal slower when one is stressed, this is the placebo effect, this is how spontaneous recoveries/remissions from serious issues occur (fun fact: the recoveries/remissions aren’t so spontaneous after all!), this is fight-or-flight mode turning on during a threat, this is the release of happy neurotransmitters when you smile, this is the release of adrenaline while upset, this is why cancer patients die quicker when they’re depressed and believe they’re going to die, etc. From a simple eye twitch when you’re angry to full blown CRPS or PTSD after a traumatic event, we’re all affected. Don’t view this as anything other than a fact of nature. Your mind and your body are powerful, and you can overcome this. Your symptoms will decrease as you truly get back to living.

    The keys to how I healed: http://www.tmswiki.org/forum/threads/how-i-healed-from-a-myriad-of-symptoms.18723/ (How I healed from a myriad of symptoms)
    1. Time2be
      Time2be
      Thank you! This is exactly what I need this morning!
      1. Caulfield
        Caulfield
        You will be just fine! :)
        Nov 3, 2018
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      2. Time2be
        Time2be
        Having a life - this is also what my doc tells me. Don’t know why this is so difficult for me but I will find out. Have you ever considered being a psychotherapist or counselor? You would be a really good one!
        Nov 3, 2018
    2. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      I disagree with my earlier posts that focused too much on Ehlers-Danlos and getting stuck on the past. Heal by living and loving life again!
    3. Marinedad
      Marinedad
      It’s been 8 yrs and I still can’t heal
      1. Caulfield
        Caulfield
        Healing is possible for everyone! I had anxiety-related health symptoms for the majority of my life (over two decades), and I still healed. Stop fearing your symptoms, believe in your body's ability to heal, and fully live life again. TMS = anxiety and powerful emotions. Don't get too caught up in trying to heal. Relax, sit back, and have fun again. :)
        Jun 5, 2018
    4. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      I overcame pain and other symptoms. Healing is possible for EVERYONE. Stop fearing your symptoms and obsessing; instead, live peacefully!
      1. MWsunin12 likes this.
    5. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      Forget Ehlers-Danlos; my chronic pain and other bizarre symptoms are resolving by allowing myself to relax, have fun, and let go of anger.
      1. MWsunin12 and Mitch like this.
    6. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      Autonomic dysfunction is common in hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos; my nervous system is even more overactive from stress. I'm working through it.
    7. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      I was diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos and mast cell activation. I'm going to be OK! Stress makes it worse. I need to keep on living through it.
    8. Caulfield
      Caulfield
      I can't do this anymore. I'm applying for assisted suicide in another country. Thanks
      1. Andy B
        Andy B
        Hi Caulfield,
        I hope you don't give up hope yet. You have a history of depression, and I suppose you may have been this low before, and gotten through? I hope so. I sent you a PM>
        Jun 22, 2017
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  • My Story

    Diagnoses:
    Overactive sympathetic nervous system from chronic stress. I do have hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos and understand that this connective tissue disorder can cause autonomic dysfunction, but TMS is responsible for 95%+ of my symptoms.
    Healing is always possible, no matter how chronic or severe the symptoms may be. It's all about trading obsession and negativity for happiness and forgiveness. Get back to fully living life again.

    Trying to heal means you're still obsessing over the symptoms in some capacity. Obsession and trying to heal encourages symptoms and stimulates the nervous system. You have to stop actively trying to heal.

    This means forgetting about the desired outcome (to heal) - and getting back to fully living your life without fear. What do you enjoy doing? What do you love about yourself? Do you connect with life and yourself through meditation, going for walks, loving others, listening to uplifting music, appreciating nature, etc.? These are simply ideas, not things you have to do. Find something that speaks to you personally and love the hell out of it.

    Understand that nothing is permanent in life, and you and your body are safe right now. None of this is permanent. You don’t even have to dwell on what caused the symptoms (this can sometimes lead to more obsession) - you only have to work toward acceptance, loving yourself, and enjoying some things in life. But do these things because love is good for your soul, not because you want to heal.

    For what it’s worth, sometimes ordering more TMS books or further researching this topic also creates more obsession. Information overload is not necessarily your friend. Believe in your ability to heal and look to people who have healed for guidance.

    There’s nothing wrong with not being healed yet, and relapses or bad days can certainly happen as we deal with difficult situations and powerful emotions throughout our lives (none of us are perfect with flawless lives), but be mindful of advice from anyone who is obsessed with and fearful of their own symptoms. It’s like taking financial advice from someone still working their way out of bankruptcy; they can and will absolutely come back stronger than ever and eliminate fear and obsession one day, but they aren’t there today. And that’s 100% OK because we’ve all been there - otherwise we wouldn’t be on this forum at all. I wish I had known that while I was still healing and feeling terrified because I was primarily interacting with people who were in just as bad of a place as me. It made me think healing wasn’t possible. Many of us have healed!

    As I always say, TMS is not an actual medical condition. Nobody “has” TMS. It’s a natural bodily response to emotions - every single individual who has been on this planet experiences it. The body is designed to respond to our emotions - it’s the mind-body connection: this is why wounds have been scientifically documented to heal slower when one is stressed, this is the placebo effect, this is how spontaneous recoveries/remissions from serious issues occur (fun fact: the recoveries/remissions aren’t so spontaneous after all!), this is fight-or-flight mode turning on during a threat, this is the release of happy neurotransmitters when you smile, this is the release of adrenaline while upset, this is why cancer patients die quicker when they’re depressed and believe they’re going to die, etc. From a simple eye twitch when you’re angry to full blown CRPS or PTSD after a traumatic event, we’re all affected. Don’t view this as anything other than a fact of nature. Your mind and your body are powerful, and you can overcome this. Your symptoms will decrease as you truly get back to living.

    The keys to how I healed: http://www.tmswiki.org/forum/threads/how-i-healed-from-a-myriad-of-symptoms.18723/ (How I healed from a myriad of symptoms)